Therapy for Intrusive Thoughts & OCD
in California
Online Therapy for
Intrusive Thoughts and OCD
You love your baby more than anything…and that’s exactly why these thoughts are so scary and confusing.
Maybe you're having sudden, horrifying images or thoughts about something bad happening to your baby.
Maybe you can't stop checking — their breathing, the monitor, the locks, the stove — even when you know it's okay.
Maybe your mind jumps to worst-case scenarios so fast it takes your breath away.
Maybe you've started avoiding certain situations, objects, or even holding your baby, just to feel safer.
Maybe you're Googling your thoughts in the middle of the night trying to figure out what's wrong with you.
Maybe you're terrified to tell anyone what's going through your head.
Here's what we need you to know:
Having these thoughts does not make you dangerous. It does not make you a bad mother. In fact, the distress you feel about them is a sign of how much you love your baby.
Intrusive thoughts and postpartum OCD are more common than most people realize, and with the right support, they are very treatable.
At Palmetto Psychology Clinic, we provide specialized online therapy for intrusive thoughts and OCD across California. You don't have to white-knuckle your way through this alone.
We’ve helped hundreds of California moms with intrusive thoughts.
You’re not alone, and we can help.
What Intrusive Thoughts and OCD Look Like
Postpartum OCD and intrusive thoughts don't always look like what people picture when they hear "OCD."
Many women experiencing this are loving, careful, attentive mothers, which is part of why these thoughts are so distressing. You might:
Have sudden, unwanted images or thoughts about your baby being hurt, even by you
Feel a wave of horror immediately after the thought, followed by shame and panic
Go out of your way to avoid anything that triggers the thoughts
Check on your baby repeatedly even when you know they're okay
Seek constant reassurance from your partner, doctor, Google, or ChatGPT
Perform mental rituals to "cancel out" or neutralize a scary thought
Feel terrified to be alone with your baby (not because you want to hurt them, but because the thoughts scare you so much)
Confess your thoughts to your partner over and over hoping to feel better, but the relief never lasts
Lie awake replaying thoughts, trying to figure out if they "mean something"
The distress you feel about these thoughts is not a red flag. It's actually evidence that you are not a danger to your baby.
Moms with postpartum OCD are not at risk of acting on these thoughts. But you do deserve support so you don't have to keep living in fear of your own mind.
Intrusive thoughts and OCD can be exhausting
Obsessive thoughts often become much more than "overthinking." They can consume enormous amounts of mental energy and make it difficult to focus on work, relationships, parenting, or everyday life. You may experience:
Constant doubt and uncertainty
Repetitive unwanted thoughts or images
Excessive reassurance seeking
Mental reviewing or analyzing
Checking behaviors
Avoidance of situations, people, or triggers
Difficulty making decisions
Fear of making mistakes
Feeling trapped in your own mind
Anxiety that never seems fully resolved
Some people experience visible compulsions, while others experience mostly mental compulsions that happen internally and go unnoticed by others. Either way, the distress is real. Perhaps you're constantly asking yourself:
What if something bad happens?
What if I hurt someone?
What if I secretly want this?
What if I made a mistake?
What if I can't be certain?
Many people experiencing intrusive thoughts or OCD worry that their thoughts say something terrible about them. In reality, intrusive thoughts are often the exact opposite. The thoughts tend to target the things you care about most.
Bottom line: you are not your thoughts. And you do not have to keep living in fear of them.
Therapy for Intrusive Thoughts and OCD
Therapy for intrusive thoughts and postpartum OCD is not about suppressing the thoughts or willing them away, because that actually makes them stronger.
At Palmetto, we use evidence-based approaches to help you change your relationship with these thoughts so they lose their power over your life.
In therapy, we may work on:
Understanding why intrusive thoughts happen, and why they are not a reflection of your character
Learning why reassurance-seeking, checking, and avoidance keep the cycle going
Building tolerance for uncertainty without needing to "check" or "fix" it
Reducing compulsions like checking, Googling, confessing, and mental reviewing
Responding to scary thoughts in ways that decrease their power over time
Rebuilding trust in yourself as a mother
Getting back to things you've been avoiding out of fear
Helping you feel safe in your own mind again
Our approach is compassionate, collaborative, and grounded in the most effective treatments for OCD and intrusive thoughts. We know how terrifying it can feel to say these thoughts out loudm and we also know that doing just that is often the first step to getting better.
At the end of therapy, our clients often tell us the thoughts still pop up sometimes, but they don't send them into a spiral anymore. They know what's happening, they know what to do, and they trust themselves to respond effectively.
FAQs about Intrusive Thoughts & OCD
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No, and this is the most important thing we want you to hear:
Intrusive thoughts about harm are not the same as wanting to cause harm. In fact, the horror and distress you feel about these thoughts is evidence that you are not a danger to your baby. These are a symptom of postpartum OCD and postpartum anxiety, not a reflection of your character.
Please reach out to us if this page resonates. You don't have to carry this alone, and it is very treatable.
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Intrusive thoughts are unwanted, distressing thoughts that pop into your mind.
Postpartum OCD involves those thoughts plus compulsions (e.g. checking, avoiding, seeking reassurance, mental reviewing, etc.) that you perform to try to neutralize the anxiety.
If you find yourself doing things to feel "safe" from the thoughts, that's a sign of OCD rather than just intrusive thoughts alone. Both respond well to treatment.
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Googling (and other forms of researching) is a common compulsion. It tends to provide short-term relief but reinforces the idea that the thought is dangerous and needs to be checked.
Over time, it keeps the cycle going and makes the anxiety stronger.
This is one of the first things we work on in therapy, helping you break the reassurance-seeking loop.
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We understand why you're doing it because it feels like the safest thing. But avoidance is a compulsion too, and over time it makes the fear grow.
In therapy, together we can help you understand what's happening and gradually rebuild confidence so you can be fully present with your baby again.
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Checking behaviors (like nonstop monitor watching, tracking baby wearable data, or tiptoeing over to make sure the baby is still breathing) are often an attempt to reduce anxiety or create certainty. This is something we understandably crave in this unpredictable season!
While they may bring temporary relief, they usually keep the anxiety cycle going over time. We’ll help you explore how this shows up for you and learn tools to break the loop.
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This fear stops so many women from getting help, and we want to address it directly. Seeking therapy for intrusive thoughts is an act of responsible parenting, not a risk to your custody.
Therapists who specialize in postpartum OCD understand exactly what these thoughts are and will not mistake them for intent. You are safe to be honest here.
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Yes, very effectively. With the right approach, most clients see significant improvement. The thoughts may not disappear entirely, but they lose their power so that you stop feeling controlled by them. That's the goal, and it's absolutely achievable.
FAQs about Therapy at Palmetto
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Therapy at Palmetto is a collaborative, supportive process.
Whether you’re seeking help for postpartum anxiety, depression, or challenges in motherhood, we’ll start by getting to know you — your story, your goals, and what feels most important to you right now — to create a therapy plan tailored to your specific circumstances.
Over time, therapy will help you feel calmer, more grounded, and more connected to yourself and those around you.
For more about our approach, visit our services page.
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Finding the right therapist is key to feeling supported and understood. That’s why we start with a free consultation to learn more about what you’re looking for and match you with a clinician who specializes in your specific concerns.
If it’s not the perfect fit, we’ll help connect you with someone who is.
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Yes! We exclusively offer telehealth sessions for clients throughout California.
Many clients, especially new and expecting moms, appreciate the flexibility of virtual sessions. Telehealth allows you to access care from the comfort of your home (and with your baby in your arms!) at a time that works for your ever-changing schedule.
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Yes! We love seeing your little ones and you are welcome to cuddle, nurse, or contact nap with them during your sessions.
To maintain your privacy and to ensure you get the most out of therapy, verbal toddlers and older children should not be in the room with you during therapy.
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Our session fees vary depending on the clinician, type, and length of service.
Fees reflect the expertise of our highly specialized doctoral-level psychologists. Rates fall within the typical range for private practice therapy in the Bay Area.
We also offer lower-fee services with our highly trained student therapists.
We’re happy to discuss your needs and share more about costs during your free consultation.
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We are an out-of-network therapy practice, which means we do not bill insurance directly.
Many of our clients receive partial reimbursement from their insurance company for therapy sessions. We provide monthly superbills to make the process simple.
We recommend checking with your insurance provider about your out-of-network mental health benefits.
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It’s a little different from client to client depending on needs, scheduling, and budget. We generally recommend that all clients start with us on a weekly basis.
After making some initial progress, some clients will move to a biweekly cadence. As you approach graduation from therapy, you and your provider may elect to space sessions out to meet monthly or on an as-needed basis.
You and your provider will work together to create a custom treatment plan tailored to your goals and needs.
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It depends on your goals. Some clients come for short-term therapy to manage postpartum adjustment or anxiety, while others continue longer-term to work through patterns that have built up over time and to cope with the ever-changing challenges of motherhood.
You and your therapist will collaborate to find a pace and approach that feels right for you and regularly check in about your progress.
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That’s completely normal. Many clients start therapy uncertain about what they need — they just know something isn’t working.
You don’t need to have the perfect words or plan to begin. Our therapists are here to meet you where you are and help you find clarity, confidence, and relief.
If you’re unsure, book a free consultation so we can make recommendations and help you decide whether therapy is the right fit — no strings attached.
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We offer a free consultation to help you explore whether therapy at Palmetto Psychology Clinic feels like the right fit.
You can schedule directly through our website, email us at hello@palmettopsychology.com, call us, or send us a text at (628) 285-1745 — we’ll take care of the rest.
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You don't have to keep living in fear of your own mind.
If scary thoughts are hijacking your days, if you're exhausted from checking and reassuring and avoiding, or if you're too afraid to tell anyone what's going through your head — you are not alone, and you are not broken.
We offer online postpartum anxiety therapy across California, including San Francisco, the Bay Area, Los Angeles, Orange County, and San Diego.
You don’t have to wait until things feel “bad enough” to get support.
Start with a free consultation to find the right therapist for you.